Let's Talk: Things I've Learnt About Self Care

Sunday, 28 January 2018

The idea of self care seems to be everywhere at the moment. Initially you might think of personal hygiene or physical health but it goes much further than that. The way I see it is being a little bit kinder to yourself and making the effort to do things you enjoy, no matter how small, to make yourself feel good. In my CBT sessions it was something we spoke about very often. Doing things consciously to improve my health and wellbeing. Whether it was something small like making time to have a bath every night or taking quiet time out to read or listen to music. Along the way I've picked up some helpful advice regarding this self care business so thought I'd share some tips with you.

Small Acts Make A Big Difference
Sometimes it's the small things that can make you feel your best. The more boring and mundane tasks that make you feel like you've got your shit together. Whether it's organising your drawers, decluttering your wardrobe or even changing your bedding. When you're feeling your worst it can make the smallest of tasks hard to face so making the effort will bring you comfort and feelings of significant achievement.

Make The Most Of Your Surroundings
Online seems to only share the idea that self care is as elaborate as buying all the lush bath bombs possible and having a luxury relaxation evening. Although this is a lovely way to spend your time, it isn't just about treating yourself to new experiences. Often, just embracing your near surroundings can help your mood and general wellbeing. Going for a walk or drive somewhere close will make occupy you in a familiar setting and help you feel uplifted.

Focus On You
It might sound vain and selfish but you really have to focus on yourself a bit more. I'ts crucial to get to know what you love most in life and what/who makes you happy. It might sound slightly shallow, (although I'll be honest, I don't really care) I find that making more effort with my appearance can give me a boost. I feel more confident when I've made an effort with my hair and makeup and overall I just feel good. I don't think there's anything wrong with thinking that looking good makes you feel good. Though I will say, it's not the most important thing. I always feel a bit happier after having a haircut or getting my eyebrows threaded or my nails done. There's no reason why you shouldn't treat yourself. Buy that entire outfit you've been eyeing up. Another thing I try to remember is that you shouldn't compare yourself to others. At times it feels impossible but you need to remember that everyone is at different points so you can't compare your life to anyone else's. I won't use the word journey but basically what I'm trying to say is that this type of thing is extremely personal and individual so there's no way you can compare yourself and what makes you happy to other people.

Be Kinder To Yourself
If there's one thing I've learnt since struggling with panic attacks and anxiety it's that you have to be nicer to yourself at times. Give yourself and break and stop beating yourself up about things. It will help with building self-esteem as well as make you feel stronger and more capable. If ever I cancel plans or can't make it to things because of anxiety I end up going through the motions of feeling guilty and beating myself up about it. So I got came to the decision that there was no point. Worrying wasn't helping or making any difference. You just need to accept that you can't do everything or push yourself constantly so taking time away or withdrawing from certain situations is perfectly acceptable. People will completely understand and those who don't aren't worth caring about.

Just to finish I wanted to let you know about a really helpful instagram account I've come across. Hannah is a mental health activist who writes a blog and creates art that really helps people. Her account is @makedaisychains where she shares drawings that celebrate small acts like going outside and getting some fresh air, going grocery shopping, and cooking.

How do you practise self care?

Liv x


  1. Such a lovely post Liv, full of some of the best ideas. It's so true when you say that we assume or think that self care is buying all of these 'luxury' skin care items or bath bombs to make ourselves feel better, when in actual fact, all it can take is a simple walk or putting some makeup on.
    Amber | www.amberatlanta.blogspot.co.uk

  2. I absolutely love this post, and I feel like it will help many people, including myself. Your photography is also great! Thank you for sharing these tips, girly!

    Jade xo | www.simplyjadey.co.uk

  3. being kinder to yourself is definitely a harder one to put into practice i find. im exactly the same as you, totally beat myself up about things and then feeling guilty etc. just need to re-wire my brain to accept that these things are normal and dont require a pity party!

    have just followed hannah on instagram - what a GORGEOUS feed! ♥♥

    katie. xx lacoconoire.com

    1. It's so frustrating that we both do that! There's no need and it's so negative. Her insta is so amazing omg xx

  4. I love this! My focus on self care is really tuning into what my body wants, whether that's exercise and healthy food, or to lounge around in my pjs and eat pizza. I definitely think that self care routines are different for everyone and it is all about you!

    Abi | abistreetx

    1. 100% you've gotta do what feels right for you!xx

  5. What a lovely post, Liv! I really should practice some of these. Self-care is so important!

    Fatima x www.fatimawrites.co.uk


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